Welcome to this Week's Edition of Red Things on Tuesday.

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If you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your family.

This is a famous old Ram Dass quote. He took all that acid, hung out with gurus and saints, and did as much spiritual practice as anyone could. And Thanksgiving still triggered him.

Why should we be different? Who are we that this should be easy?

I don't always know how to relate to my folks, we've certainly had our ups and downs. As I write this from their kitchen table, I wonder if we'll get out unscathed.

It's clear, though, that our fates are tied together. My mind and my nervous system have largely been built by these well-meaning humans who did the best they could. All the work I've done on myself, and I still have their voices in my head, I still see through their eyes. I meet them everywhere I go, their head conveniently placed on the bodies of people that I meet. And god help you if you're an authority figure. Teachers, therapists, yoga teachers, and spiritual advisors get the worst of it.

Anyone who works with clients for any length of time knows about transference. We notice when our clients don't actually see us as much as project upon us. They, like all of us, are seeing the world through lenses crafted in childhood.

There is a beautiful prayer from the Mahabharata that we sing sometimes. Twameva mata cha pita twameva.

Originally a prayer to Krishna (God) it translates to, "You are my mother, you are my father."

It reminds us that our true source is spiritual, not material.

But I sometimes can't help but wonder if it's a nod to projection and transference. Our relationship with the world, our relationship with god, very probably mirrors our relationship with our parents. We mistakenly believe that universal consciousness acts and believes and shares the same values as our folks. How limiting!

All the more reason to become mindful of our interpretations of events and our responses to them. All the more reason to slow down.

Now go out there and be cool to people. Remind yourself that you're seeing them through your old baggage and give them a little grace. Not necessarily for them, but for you. There is rarely a downside to being slightly cooler and graceful with people, even if they are jerks. Sometimes, especially if they are jerks.

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But the writing got away from me there.

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Rest In Peace Jimmy Cliff

I got to see Jimmy play once at Reggae on the River, and "The Harder They Come" is on heavy rotation at our house. He'll be missed.

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A lovely version of Twameva...

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